How to get people to like you:
To form a person to person bond you must be likeable.
Here are seven things that may help:
1. Smile. No, this doesn’t come as shock, but studies do show that the amount of time you smile during a conversation has a direct impact on how friendly you’re perceived to be.
2. Be easily impressed, entertained, and interested. Most people get more pleasure from impressing you with their humor and insight than from being impressed by your humor and knowledge.
3. Have a friendly, open, engaged demeanor. Lean toward people, nod, say “Uh-huh,” turn your body to face the other person’s body. Don’t turn your body away, cross your arms, answer in monosyllables, or worse yet, scan the room as the other person talks.
4. Remember halo effect. In “the halo effect,” whatever you say about other people influences how people view you. If you describe someone as brilliant and charismatic, your acquaintance will tend to associate you with those qualities. On the other hand, if you describe a co-worker as irritating and obnoxious, those effects will stick to you. Watch what you say.
5. Laugh at yourself. Showing a certain amount of vulnerability and a sense of humor make you more likable and approachable. However, don’t take this self run-down too far. You’ll make others uncomfortable if you run yourself down too much.
6. Radiate energy and good humor. Because of the phenomenon of “emotional contagion,” people catch the emotions of other people, and they prefer to catch an upbeat, energetic mood. Even if you pride yourself on your cynicism, biting humor, or general edginess, these qualities can be conveyed with warmth. Take the high road whenever possible.
7. Show your liking for another person. We’re much more apt to like someone if we think that person likes us. Look for ways to signal that you enjoy a person’s company.
It’s particularly worth your effort to be your friendliest when you meet someone for the first time. Studies show that within ten minutes of meeting a new person, we decide how close a relationship we’ll have with that new acquaintance, and that in evaluating people, we weigh early information much more heavily than information acquired later.